Shopping Addiction

This is a very real compulsive disorder and during this time of year it really flares up. I've met some military spouses with this compulsive disorder- some having it so bad that it has nearly destroyed their marriages. So what causes someone to compulsively shop?


The root cause of all addictions is to anesthetize one self from inner pain. People who fall victim to shopping are using it like a drug because they are feeling impoverished emotionally or as though they don't have enough love, confidence or self esteem.
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Signs of Addiction
If you're concerned a family member or friend may be a shopping addict, Ablow said there are several tell tale signs to look for.
— People who express excitement about their purchases or great anxiety
— Anyone who is juggling finances to try to cover expenses that seem like needless ones
— History is our best guide: People who have gotten into trouble with their credit cards in the past but can't stop using them
— Someone that seems in great conflict with family members or friends
— If a person is making big purchases to feel wealthy or well-liked
— Someone who lies about their purchases or hides them

Treatments
"I'm a big proponent of psychotherapy," said Ablow. "There are also a lot of groups for compulsive spenders... 12 step groups can be very helpful."
One of those groups is shopaholicsanonymous.org, which covers both shopping and shoplifting addiction. Addicts can also try debtorsanonymous.org.
Both websites provide support and counseling, as well as a list of contact numbers, so someone can find a meeting in their area.
Once a person has recognized they have a problem — there are some basic changes they can make, according to shopaholicsanonymous.org.
Making Changes
- Reduce temptations
- Cut up those credit cards, close charge accounts and throw away credit card offers
- Make lists before going to the store and buy what you need only
- Wait so many hours before purchase
- Ask yourself if you need something or do you just want it?
- Develop other ways to handle emotions
- Find other fun ways to spend your time
- Learn to ride through urges